Tolerance and love – A few more thoughts
Why can’t we all just agree to disagree? Why do we have to fight and argue about our beliefs? I’m not asking people to like each other, just that we not fight all the time.
On my other blog, I posted a video demonstrating cymatics. I thought the shapes and patterns generated by the sound waves, were pretty cool. Obviously other people agreed with me because it started getting a lot of hits. And then it got stumbled, and I started getting thousands of hits. That’s a good thing, right?
At some point, someone posted a comment about the wonders of God’s creation. basically praising God and expressing amazement at what He has built into his world. Someone else posted a similar comment. There was no attack, or condemnation of others in either of the posts. Just some simple praise for God.
Shortly after that, the conversation went downhill. Someone else posted a comment attacking the first two. Saying that there was no god, and that the earlier commenter’s were stupid for ascribing to god what was nothing but simple science. I posted a rebuttal to his comment, telling him that everyone has a right to their beliefs, and that there was no cause for attacking them when they were simply expressing their beliefs.
After that, the comments attacking Christianity and anyone who believed in God, got a lot worse. Since it is my blog, I get to moderate the comments. Which is really a good thing. Because I deleted a lot of the comments that were using seriously excessive amounts of language and were saying very nasty things that were just uncalled for. My rule on comments is if they are using excessive language or are comparing other people to various body parts, they get deleted. I also don’t like advertisements,
All of this made me feel like the atheists, who were the ones doing most of the attacking, were simply intolerant and very much hypocrites. After all, it is usually atheists in the media and in colleges that are preaching and pushing tolerance. And now here it’s the atheists that are attacking Christians for simply expressing their beliefs.
I was feeling like I was so much better than they were. Saying to myself, “Christians wouldn’t stoop to that level.” But then I realized how stupid that thought was. We Christians aren’t really any better at this than anyone else. We may not preach tolerance, but we do preach love. And what are most of the mainstream Christian groups doing? They are actively hating and attacking anyone who believes differently.
Jesus said that the second greatest commandment, second only to loving God, is to love your neighbor. You’re supposed to love him/her the way you love yourself. How can you show love to a person that you are attacking? God loved us so much that he let us kill his son! And that is the example we are supposed to be following.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying our differences should be ignored. or that they should be glossed over. Beliefs are important, and should not be abandoned in the interest of love or unity. But standing up for what you believe, does not mean you have to attack others. There is nothing wrong with agreeing to disagree. No matter what side you are on and no matter what the belief may be.
Towards the end of the comment thread, many people started posting comments that seemed to echo some of what I’m saying here. We can just agree to disagree, without having to attack each other. I just wish more people had that view.

November 12th, 2007 at 4:38 pm
Interesting thoughts about tolerance and love.
You write: “We may not preach tolerance, but we do preach love.”
But your conclusion, the accentuation of love, deduced from Matthew 22: 39, isn’t it just tolerance….?
(Sophisticated greetings
)
November 13th, 2007 at 8:37 am
Well, tolerance isn’t the same as love. Tolerance does not require you to love or care about anyone. It simply requires you to put up with things and people you don’t like.
The Bible requires us to go beyond that and actually love and care for people who are our enemies and who hate us. Which is far harder to do than simply tolerating them.
November 13th, 2007 at 9:39 am
That’s why I thought about it:
Should a Christian (“always” – or at least often…) try to fulfill this ideal of LOVE?
Or ist it “normal” that he doesn’t?
(Then: what is the difference in this point to Non-Christians? Only having other ideals? Preaching of love… and living less tolerance?)
(Benign “provocative” greetings
)
November 13th, 2007 at 9:50 am
Not sure I understand your question Alexander, but my point was that Christians preaching love and not practicing it, are no better than non-christians preaching tolerance and not practicing it. It’s just as hypocritical.
November 13th, 2007 at 10:15 am
Sorry, Jamie, for obviously not having been clear enough:
I read your (very nice) post. You had cited (Mat 22:39) who says very clear: we should love (!) our neighbours (not “only” tolerate them). But at the end of your post I wondered: your conclusion in this special point was just a kind of tolerance.
Please don’t misunderstand: that is (especially for many people – and I’ve read the discussion about cymatics……….) – very much.
But I asked myself if a Christian shouldn’t have even higher requirements – and formulate them… or find the way to live this.
This is really not meant as criticism (I really appreciate what you write in your post and I think you handled that discussion very well)
- it’s just a thought…. e.g. about ideals and reality… ?!